I found this interview with Jenny Sanford very very good.
For now, the first lady of South Carolina is groping for the high road and trying to keep an open mind. “If you don’t forgive,” she says, “you become angry and bitter. I don’t want to become that. I am not in charge of revenge. That’s not up to me. That’s for the Lord to decide, and it’s important for me to teach that to my boys. All I can do is forgive. Reconciliation is something else, and that is going to be a harder road. I have put my heart and soul into being a good mother and wife. Now I think it’s up to my husband to do the soul-searching to see if he wants to stay married. The ball is in his court.”
I've only followed the saga from a distance, but this tells me all I need to know. She certainly understands the nature of forgiveness, which seems to have provided her with the clarity of judgement that she needs in this difficult situation. (Those who misunderstand it will see that forgiveness doesn't equal doormat.) Bless this family and guide them Lord. And let us all learn as we go forward.

Mrs. Sanford appears to be going through a very difficult situation. But after reading the interview, I'm not sure she should be held up as an example of forgiveness, at least not based on this interview, if not all the other publicity Mrs. Sanford has gotten.
Honestly I hold Mrs. Spitzer's disposition toward her husband's infidelity in higher favor than Mrs. Sanford's, at least as each is recounted in the article you link to. I know, thanks to all of her interviews, public statements, and other appearances, how virtuous, mature, and forgiving Mrs. Sanford is. I know next to nothing about Mrs. Spitzer's virtues. That makes me inclined to hold Mrs. Spitzer as the more virtuous.
We shouldn't disparage Mrs. Sanford's attempts at forgiveness (God knows my shallow well of wisdom would have long since run dry if I were in her shoes), but we shouldn't make something out to be heroic when it is not.
Posted by: John | Tuesday, 18 August 2009 at 01:03 PM
+JMJ+
I haven't been following this in the news at all, but I can tell she is a wise woman.
A member of my family has never forgiven her husband for cheating on her, and I have watched her anger and bitterness eat her up from the inside for years.
Posted by: Enbrethiliel | Saturday, 29 August 2009 at 01:36 PM