I'm baffled

Fifteen abortions in sixteen years -- she calls herself an abortion addict. While her site (and upcoming book) try to explain the inexpicable, my over-riding question is, "Why can she not see that choice = death to all?"

"I am worried about my safety and the hate mail," she told ABCNews.com in a telephone interview as her [two] home-schooled children were at work on a painting project.

"No book like this has ever been written," she told ABCNews.com. "I just imagine the 'baby killer' and I could be a poster child for that kind of fundamentalism. And there are my little kids in all of that."

Well, fundamentally, she has killed her babies and is trying to explain why -- isn't that the point? Here's a telling blurb:

“Lolita Lebron's granddaughter, heir to the most public female embodiment of heroic self-sacrifice in Puerto Rico in this century, has written a memoir full of searing, intimate truths, silences broken open to reveal the personal costs of public myth making...A momentous act of courage. ”
—Aurora Levins Morales, The Women's Review of Books

"Myth making" might be an excellent clue. There seems to be a partial effort to tie the self-mutilation to "colonialism," but one cannot liken a husband to an occupying army -- unless you hate him that much. She actually stresses more importantly that the media abuses women through its toxic and confusing messages:

Vilar blames much of her poor choices on a hypersexualized society that at once values the perfect mother, but also expects women to be sexually attractive to men and to achieve professionally.

"Women have a deep need for agency, for purpose and direction and society is not providing natural and healthy channels for creative action," she said.

"In school and on TV, every message I get is what I am doing as a mother or wife is wrong," said Vilar. "I should be thinking about a profession and not mothering. Everyone is having babies, and yet they don't want to care for them.

"Are many of the repeat abortions in part an embodiment of this mixed message? A lost, ambivalent attempt at an act of agency that cannot find its proper vessel? "

The Marxists (with whom she aligns herself) demanded promiscuity without bounds and reproductive rights as a key to the dialiectic -- and yet she cannot indict them as part of the problem, so it's confusing from the start. But I don't think the book claims to be straight-forward.  

The fact that everyone admits that a mental imbalance caused her to do what she did doesn't make them question abortion on-demand in the least. Just so the crazy women are sexually available, who cares what they suffer in the process. All the requisite links for planned parenthood and naral are there -- so the lies will continue.

Comments

[Teresa]

How 'bout that cover? It's a tally, in red, of the ones she's picked off... like skeet shooting.

Nothing new here. She doesn't sound any different than any other grim post-abortive feminist writer -- disoriented, disintegrated and dreadfully unhappy.

I wonder what the conversation is like between post-abortive mothers and their pardoned children, "You got to live because... I was flush financially... I was in a 'good place' in my life... (fill in blank)."

Now watch, it'll become required reading in a high school near you.

[Renee]

The sad thing is that medical professionals who may have wanted to help this women have their hands tied. When a woman comes in with her third, fourth abortion, she needs more then better contraception. In every other area wouldn't this count as some medical negligence? There seems to be no pre-op or post-op with the medical procedure of abortion. In and out, that's it.

[Misfit]

I can tell you firsthand that there is no pre-op or post-op. It's treated as a mere surgical procedure. Once you are able to keep down some juice and cookies, you're promptly handed your walking papers AND a prescription for birth control. Now 20 plus years later, I'm trying to pick up the pieces and deal with the grief, the guilt and the shame I feel for a decision I made so long ago. Options were presented to me, but unfortunately, at the time, I felt this would be the simplest solution. Little did I know. It is a traumatic experience physically, mentally and spiritually. There is not a day that goes by that I don't grieve for my child - yes I said CHILD, a baby, not a fetus. It was a poor, innocent BABY!! I will keep this poor, sad woman in my prayers. Any woman who would deliberately make this choice over and over needs some help.

[gsk]

My heart goes out to you, dear. Please don't consider yourself a misfit -- labelling yourself like that will only put off the fullness of healing that is entirely possible. I'll remember you in particular as we go through this 40 Days for Life.

http://www.40daysforlife.com/

[Misfit]

GSK - Thank you for your kind words. I call myself misfit because it's short for Miss F.I.T. My initials spell FIT. Misfit is a nickname I've had since I was a child. Ironic though, isn't it? Maybe it's time to set that nickname aside, huh?

I have sought help with my healing process, and I will begin attending Project Rachel meetings in my area very soon. However, please do keep me and other victims of this "procedure" in your prayers.

[gsk]

Well, you can keep it if you change it to "Miss Fit!" (though I mean mentally, and in no other wise). Childhood names dredge up the best and the worst, so let's only savour that love that was imbedded in this one.

[Deirdre]

When we lost our baby, my doctor recommended against a D&C--she said it was better for everything to happen naturally, and that D&Cs pose all sorts of future risks.

So, based on what the media tells women, a D&C on a LIVING baby has no after-effects, but one on a DEAD baby is to be avoided if possible.....

I asked an MD-friend about the discrepancy. His response? "Well, doctors do follow up and care what happens to their patients after surgery. Abortionists? Not so much....."

If this woman had seen doctors about her pregnancies instead of abortionists, she might have gotten a lot more help.

[Julie Maria]

Hi Genevieve!

I just got to know your site today!

I am so happy for this!
I am a women, 33 years old from Brazil, just preparing to give my first talk on "The Mission of the Catholic Women" on October 6th.

I would love to have your book to learn but I can´t find it as E-book! If I order now will take too much days to get to my home in Brazil.
Can I pay to you and you send me it as E-book so I can have it quickly?

I give talks on Theology of the Body and now I am working to put it toguether with the "women's mission" because I really fell the need to do it. I did the Course with C. West on 2006, the year I stay working as nanny and study with the dominicans at Berkeley!

I have this web sites:

www.teologiadocorpo.com.br
and this one
modaemodestia.wordpress.com

The last one has some articles I wrote (and also others) about "fashion and modesty", feminism, Church documents about women, etc. (All from Catholic Church's doctrine). I am sorry is all in portuguese...

Hope you can help me!

God bless your great posts!

Yours in Christ,

Julie Maria