For twenty years, I've stuck to the topic of authentic femininity, but I've branched out a little. This fine group asked for an interview, and the old girl had a few thoughts about men. Find Chatty Cathy here!
The next time you think, "Darn it--kids these days!" take a moment to remember this outstanding young lady in Alaska:
In addition to the selfless act of sharing her child through adoption, 19-year-old Kaleena Pysher has succeeded in providing her baby milk, even though the adoptive parents live out of state. She’s also prevailed despite the complex feelings of separation, knowing her gift is one of love.
“I know in my heart and my mind this is the best thing,” Pysher said told Alaska Dispatch News.
It sounds like abortion was never an option, and that pumping around the clock (every two hours for six weeks!) was something she knew was in the child's best interest.
Her motivation for donating her breast milk for her daughter is the same as her reason for choosing adoption. “I want her to have the best,” said Pysher.
Pysher, who gave birth in November, bonded with her baby during pregnancy, singing and reading to her. Giving birth went well for Pysher too. “As soon as she came out, they plopped her on my chest,” she said. “She was crying. I was just so happy.”
Pysher had learned about the benefits of breastfeeding through a visiting nurse program, and her daughter’s adoptive parents agreed to provide her a breast pump and pay to ship her breast milk.
The child is blessed, the family must be delighted, and everyone will benefit in the end. Yay for the visiting nurse program, and yay for the generosity of spirit, which must transcend even this singular bond. The young mother has put off the inevitable mourning she must undergo,
but does understand the implications of her sacrifice, saying she would not trade the experience for anything. "Now," Pysher said, "I know there's a stronger love."
Is it possible that we could reach out to non-believers, to feminists, to bring to light the horrors of FGM?
This video is excellent in showing the faces -- you owe it to them to just look at the photos of the young girls as they suffer this horrific abuse.
That said, I take issue with the way that this is linked to generic patriarchy. Remember the distinct difference between the Trinitarian God and Allah, between God the Father and Allah who is unknowable and Not-Father, between those who honour the gifts and fundamental equality of women and those who don't. There are patriarchies, and there are patriarchies. Those that mirror the Fatherhood of a loving God are authentic--and quite different from all the rest!