This story laments the choices some women make -- specifically, the choice to devote themselves even temporarily to the good of another. Feminists are wailing, of course.
With two high-profile [Australian] women announcing their decisions to sacrifice part or all of their professional lives for family members, it was surely only a matter of time before a wounded chorus of "how could they" was taken up in earnest.
Instead, Federal MP Jackie Kelly's decision to quit politics to spend more time with her two young children was met with "regret" by Prime Minister John Howard, who described her as "a great character and a great contributor".
Queensland Premier Peter Beattie went a step further than that yesterday afternoon. He called businesswoman Therese Rein a "role model" after her announcement that she would sell the Australian arm of her $170 million job placement company to avoid a conflict of interest that could arise if her husband Kevin Rudd became prime minister at the next election.
Not everyone agreed with him, though. One female commentator argued Ms Rein had opted for the path of least resistance: "The suggestion a woman must give up her successful business career for her husband is not only abhorrent but throws away every hard-won advance for equality," she wrote. Another contributor to a website was similarly critical.
"It doesn't matter what Kevin Rudd says about the modern wife being in business and not hanging around the neck of a man in his middle age, his wife may as well have been a stay-at-home mum if she has to give it up just so he can try and get the top job," she said.
Now choices are choices, and these are intelligent women who know the span of a day, the amount of energy they bring to each day, the value they place on their families -- and the ethical problems two careers sometimes occasion.
Certainly Ms Kelly is not the first woman to walk away from a high-profile political career citing its "harsh, unforgiving, relentless" nature as the reason for doing so.
South Australian Senator Natasha Stott-Despoja has done it, while former NSW education minister Carmel Tebbutt left the ministry in the week following the NSW election in March to spend more time with her six-year-old son.
She argued the Rein situation was different to the Kelly retirement, because gender played less of a role in it. Anyone who stood to benefit from his or her spouse's political connections would be duty-bound to do something about it, Ms Lomas said.
So a combination of factors say that now, it would be a prudent time to step away from the office because of the confines of reality. Bosh, according to feminists. Any decision not to think of "me, first" is a cop-out and a retreat to women as chattel, women as baubles, women as help-meets, women as second-class citizens.
"Might as well have been a stay-at-home mum" was the ultimate insult, doncha know? They are the dead-beats who have "never tried anything beyond husband, family and good works." Good works don't bring down a paycheck, help break glass ceilings, or round out the quotas in necessary arenas. Get thee to a cubicle and let the taxes provide the services. That's the heart of the feminist message.
This will ultimately burn itself out, if feminism requires that women come first. Not according to chivalric standards when men offered their lives for their safety and honour, but according to women themselves, who will come first, damnit, and children and menfolk can make do in their wake. We've seen what the welfare state has done for families and what state employees offer as advice to lonely children. No wonder there's so much bitterness and ill-will from all quarters, but regardless, only some choices are allowed, says the sisterhood.
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“People have realized that the complete removal of the feminine element from the Christian message is a shortcoming from an anthropological viewpoint. It is theologically and anthropologically important for woman to be at the center of Christianity."
This is just another of the unintended consequences of the cultural acceptance of contraception and abortion! Men's sexuality has been robbed of its creative essence. It is now viewed as something that imposes a burden on women (when conception happens to occur), something used to control women or something that is purely recreational. Why would men bother?? In taking away their responsibility, we've also robbed them of their significance! In the big picture of humanity, men have been made into nothing more than a nuisance women have to figure out how to control in order to bring about the next generation. Men don't see it as their task to protect the vulnerable because they see themselves as the vulnerable ones. A few well preserved vials of sperm would make men entirely obsolete in the world's ethos today!!
That is astounding Robin, and good for you for standing up. At the heart of that matter, I think, is even worse than a gender mixing message. There is an increased sharper and sharper focus on the "self." Solid Catholic teaching returns our focus away from ourselves to Father, Son and Holy Spirit. The original sin, Eve denied her womanhood when she desired to be like "gods." Since the only god she knew was the Father. Where was Adam? He stood impotent... in other words, they were divorced. There's a young girl at Robin's son's high school who was just told that she is the center of the universe and it's a tragic disservice to her.
Ditto what Mary said! A lot of high schools have very poor math and science depts, for boys and girls. I also am educated as a chemical engineer, but chose to teach the two years before we had children because its hours were more suited to spending time with children. (I was looking ahead). When it came time and I was pregnant with our first, I realized that I did not want to leave him with someone else, and was able to stay home full time. I am not sure it would have been that easy if we were used to another engineering income and not just a private school teacher income. Also some of my first job offers were out on oil rigs - I had no interest in that at all even though I enjoyed my engineering classes and did well in them. No one discouraged me from an engineering job, on the contrary I got a lot of flack for my decision not to pursue an engineering career.
I've been lurking, but this is one that irritates me. Beats the heck out of me what these "barriers" are. I was educated as a chemical engineer, where 1/3 of our class was women. However, in electrical engineering, only 1 or 2 out of 30 were women. Is it possible that women are Just Not Interested in some areas? Nah, it must be The Man keeping us down so we must legislate (and, I agree -- when they say "legistlate", I hear "quota"). And actually, I have a friend that was also a chemical engineer. When she lost her job, she decided not to go back into engineering and started working from home so she could spend more time with her 3 kids. Also, if nothing else, there are all kinds of incentives for women to enter science and engineering -- scholarships not available to men, guaranteed housing on campuses that do not guarantee housing to the general population, etc. I think you hit the nail on the head when you said that schools in general are not preparing students for the hard sciences. It is truly a sad state of affairs, the lack of science education these days.